Book Reviews

Women Who Run With The Wolves

“Practice listening to your intuition, your inner voice; ask questions; be curious; see what you see; hear what you hear; and then act upon what you know to be true. These intuitive powers were given to your soul at birth.”


The Melanin Warriors Book Cub has just finished reading what I would say has been by far one of our hardest reads to date. Women who Run With The Wolves is an internationally acclaimed being that is said to have been a New York Best seller for 145 weeks. Excitement to reading this one, is an understatement.

This book is not an easy read. It is not a book club read. It is a book packed with so much wisdom, unconventional thinking, in-depth stories and lingo that are bound to explode your brain because there is only so much one can take in. I am yet to be convinced about why it is said to be a book every woman should read, which could very well be influenced by the fact that I completed the book in month… in between all the madness and chaos of everyday life.

Estes centres the book around the concept of the Wild Woman; the awakened, in-tune and enlightened. The Wild Woman is likened to the instinctual, ageless knowing and vicious nature of the wolf, allowing us (women) to bask in the freedom of being. As we Are. Unshamedly strong. Unapologetically powerful.  Estes unpacks the Wild Woman by beginning each major theme by sharing a story which she further explains and breaks down in each chapter.

There are two particular stories that stood out for me

The story of The Ugly Duckling is centered around the notion of how each of us have a place and a pack to whom we belong to. These are the people who are able to effortlessly see your beauty, strength and embrace your uniqueness without you having to over-compensate in the quest for belonging. If you are in a place or space where you don’t belong and aren’t accepted by those around you, consider that there might be nothing wrong with you at all other than you being planted in an environment that was never designed for you to flourish. Each of us have a Pack to whom we belong. Each of us have a gang who have seen the ugly in us and choose to love us anyways.

The other story was that of a woman whose husband returns angry, distant and broken, from war. All her efforts to show him love go unnoticed and unwelcome. After she has tried everything she eventually opts to go visit the local healer for a magic potion or anything that might help bring her husband back to life. The healer tells her that she needs the silver hair of a bear who lives on the top of a mountain to which she agrees. The woman travels and along the way encounters many challenges but eventually makes it to the mountain where she catches a glimpse of the gigantic bear. She uses the food which she has brought with for herself to feed the bear every evening, without the bears knowledge, who thinks there is a guardian angel feeding him. On the 5th day the woman shows herself to the bear and tell him she needs one of the silver hairs from his neck. The woman returns to the healer with the hair and after listening to the trouble the woman went through, she takes the silver hair and throws it in the fire (I know right!!! I would be flipping at this point). But wait, there is a lesson. The healer tells the woman to take the lessons she learnt on the mountain, back home to see her through the tough season of loving her husband. The end goal is not always the prize. The truest treasure is in the journey and the experiences we go through along that journey. Our is to shift perspective, refocus and pay attention to what we pay attention to.

Overall, Women Who Run With The Wolves is phenomenal. It is a book I would recommend you read when you have time and are willing to commit. It is a season book, one that will make sense and hit home if you are in a certain space in life. This is a book I plan to give myself time to read again in the near future.

Would love to hear your thoughts if you have recently delved into this read.

Overall rating:  5.5 / 10

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