Ha! I knew about love languages and their importance before they became a thing. One of the things that has always been incredibly important to me, is being able to love those dear to me in a meaningful and annoying manner. As such I spent a lot of time paying observing and paying attention to what mattered most to my peeps. I have always believed that one of my biggest missions and God given gifts is to LOVE. And to love well.
A while back a friend of mine asked me what my love language is because she had spent a lot of time trying to figure it out and she couldn’t. I am a complex magical human being. I spent so much time trying to figure out how to best love others that I didn’t quite know or pay attention to what loving Ntombi well, looked like.
I appreciate thoughtful gestures. I value authenticity. I love anyone who can get me laughing. A kiss on the forehead or a warm hug melt my heart. Anyone who is willing to go on an ice-cream date with me gets the Friend of the Year Award…Not that that’s a thing 🙂 I appreciate honest conversations; People who help me grow. Anyone who teaches me or opens my eyes to something new. I love being loved bravely – I really really appreciate someone who loves me bravely; Willing to risk our friendship for the sake of dragging me towards a hard to swallow truth.
With that said I think its safe to say that All 5 love languages are my primary love language 🙂
But to be honest, I don’t think it matters that much. The way we want to be loved evolves with time and thats okay. I reckon whats more important is how heartfelt every act of love and kindness is. And to those on the receiving end, to keep our hearts open and recognise love when it shows up in whatever form. Its about knowing and trusting in the intentions of your people. Choosing to see the beauty of the hearts offering and never allowing ourselves to become familiar with love.